tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post6036460293093625454..comments2023-12-20T16:34:00.162-05:00Comments on The Whimsical Cottage: I'm Getting off This "Positivity" TrainDannihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07686692876719223611noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-38493321141320166382013-09-23T08:31:34.585-04:002013-09-23T08:31:34.585-04:00Well, that to say... I don't feel bad for not...Well, that to say... I don't feel bad for not feeling extatic all the time...I strive for BALANCE, and this mean having shitty moment as well in my day. And see, while changing the baby's pyj (because it really got full of shit...) my 3yr old made the baby laugh! And I'm happy with that.... At not being happy ALL the time!Andréannhttp://demilunes.conoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-41723647906427286022013-09-23T08:20:53.934-04:002013-09-23T08:20:53.934-04:00I had a good laugh about the reading while the kid...I had a good laugh about the reading while the kids are wailling part.....My pinterest was once flowded with those meaningless image, thinking, surely the girl that made that didn't got up at 6 o'clock this morning because her BF had the wake up or he'd be stuck in the traffic jam, waking up your 3yr old that just can't be left alone in the house, taking with you the 3mo old baby that's awake now, trying not to wake up the older child. Oh wait- I have to leave this comment because said 3yr old is trying to change the baby's diapper that is full of shit.Andréannhttp://demilunes.conoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-74409589304515948072013-09-15T13:54:13.428-04:002013-09-15T13:54:13.428-04:00I don't mind people telling me about their str...I don't mind people telling me about their struggles and what they did to rise above them. Those are things I can relate to. What I do mind, like you, are the people who try to project that they are flawless and that I am not trying hard enough. These are the same people who want an arm and a leg to "help" you get that same happiness glow. I am not against making a buck, but geez, do you have to make me feel so inferior so you can have your quarterly earnings go way up! Sharon Rawsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17737437259420212462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-16612143159904068282013-09-15T13:16:40.569-04:002013-09-15T13:16:40.569-04:00Congratulations, Danni!!! But... really what I be...Congratulations, Danni!!! But... really what I believe you are taking a stand against is plain and simple: BULLSHIT. In fact, I am working on a writing project about standing up against another kind of BULLSHIT related to business owners and the same kind of thing.<br /><br />I have found more riches in the dark, that ever in the light... <br /><br />Thanks for speaking up and standing up!Coach Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14718019586366516096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-17989877540413994862013-09-15T10:35:29.775-04:002013-09-15T10:35:29.775-04:00What a refreshing post! I get enough of that '...What a refreshing post! I get enough of that 'smile and be happy' crap at work...with the innuendo of punishment to come if you are obedient. I don't need it online too! Definitely going to share this...and thanks...I agree!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-57249950197511931892013-09-13T16:42:34.740-04:002013-09-13T16:42:34.740-04:00ABSOLUTELY!! Thank you so much for this.
People ...ABSOLUTELY!! Thank you so much for this.<br /><br />People need to understand that the "perfect life" doesn't exist in those posts or pictures. The "perfect life" is perfectly horrible at times, and at others it's like watching the universe be born. Magical and amazing in all of its IMPERFECTION. If you don't learn to see the joy and "perfection" in your every day life, you'll end up miserably chasing a dream that doesn't exist.<br /><br />Embrace the beauty in the chaos and enjoy the life you have before it's gone.Phoenix Risinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08022447960303905755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-38242450426486764322013-09-12T10:55:59.818-04:002013-09-12T10:55:59.818-04:00Great post! People who write tomes on 'positiv...Great post! People who write tomes on 'positivity' have never had to endure 'real life'! IMO While many people say I have a Pollyanna attitude, I have to admit that those very same people don't see me saying how life sucks at times. But one needs to have a positive attitude or the dark depths of despair can swallow you up.<br />To me those that 'preach' positivity are no better than the missionaries that go door-to-door selling their religion to the masses. Jeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15918915129013117664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-6326580407764301492013-09-12T10:21:12.023-04:002013-09-12T10:21:12.023-04:00Can you tell my dog was having...instestinal issue...Can you tell my dog was having...instestinal issues... this week? lol. I don't think it's negative at all to expect people to be honest with their writings. I respect people who write about life with integrity, showing that it's not always sunshine and rainbows. <br /><br />Because sometimes bad things happen. And that's how we get to truly appreciate the good things. :) <br /><br />Thanks for stopping by! Dannihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07686692876719223611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-10867399509459021472013-09-12T10:11:23.795-04:002013-09-12T10:11:23.795-04:00Those are the sorts of articles and series that I ...Those are the sorts of articles and series that I enjoy reading; the ones that comes from real experience and don't claim to be experts or perfect. I like my positivity and advice to be tinged with realism rather than fantasy. :)<br /><br />Thank you so much for stopping by and for sharing!Dannihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07686692876719223611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-73262372808863949722013-09-12T10:10:16.819-04:002013-09-12T10:10:16.819-04:00Thank you, Vivienne! Glad you enjoyed it. :)Thank you, Vivienne! Glad you enjoyed it. :)Dannihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07686692876719223611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-87612320075739973912013-09-12T10:09:59.555-04:002013-09-12T10:09:59.555-04:00Ditto, Joane! That drives me crazy too.
Thank yo...Ditto, Joane! That drives me crazy too. <br /><br />Thank you for stopping by!Dannihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07686692876719223611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-68632607504731352112013-09-12T10:03:05.498-04:002013-09-12T10:03:05.498-04:00You know Oma, it *could* be positive, if you'r...You know Oma, it *could* be positive, if you're saying "shit no" to someone who's wallowing in a black hole or the "oh woe is me" party. <br /><br />And if it's not positive, it's at least realistic. And I can respect and appreciate that! Hope you're feeling better today. xox *squoozes*Dannihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07686692876719223611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-61043764288174446262013-09-12T10:01:38.856-04:002013-09-12T10:01:38.856-04:00Ah, the social media black hole. Like most 30 some...Ah, the social media black hole. Like most 30 somethings, I remember a time before the internet, but only vaguely. I'm working on detaching myself from the vortex of technology and its way of distracting us from things that really count. Of course, I enjoy the social interactions it affords me and the ease of sharing ideas, so I won't be giving it up entirely, but moderation is key. As it is in most things. ;-)<br /><br />Rather than reading about living, I plan to simply live. <br />Dannihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07686692876719223611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-20565129582106706412013-09-12T09:55:16.860-04:002013-09-12T09:55:16.860-04:00Get thee to the shower, Witch! No imperfect hair o...Get thee to the shower, Witch! No imperfect hair on my blog! *wicked cackle* ;)Dannihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07686692876719223611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-79256803090764340142013-09-12T08:53:24.512-04:002013-09-12T08:53:24.512-04:00Excellent blog post! Thanks for this!Excellent blog post! Thanks for this!Vivienne Mosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07521668500782189081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-12571923858220776822013-09-12T01:19:42.535-04:002013-09-12T01:19:42.535-04:00I agree with you completely - I am, sadly, one of ...I agree with you completely - I am, sadly, one of those people whom sit there and shake their fists at the sky from time to time after reading a blog or two that is anything less this PERFECTION. I sit and wonder how their lives could be so..Storybook? When I am sitting here in a small house in California, trying to figure out how I am going to pay for my wedding AND finish my college degree with maintaining a social life that has never gone well for me when it comes to keeping friends around. But...I Love my life and I wouldn't trade it for the world, so when those ever so "perfect" posts come about I just stare at my screen and think WHYY!!<br /><br />I do have to admit..I am, from time to time, one of those "advicy" writers but it's not about 'How to make your life just as perfect as mine'...Within the last 2 years, I have learned alot about the people around me..and because of those people, not always good people, I have learned alot about myself. So I created a series called "Happiness: Growning and Regaining" but my posts were anything but "I'm Perfect"...they were abotu the struggles and over coming the struggles..what I have learned about life, myself, and my interactions..but nothing more. I am Raw and open when I write...I don't expect people to think I am rich with knowledge or perfection..because that would be shitty..because I know I'm not full of wisdom or perfect.<br /><br /><br />Thanks for this post. :)<br /><br />-Ashlee MichelleMakeup and Modified'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15141653845219622600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-43578964506226398172013-09-11T21:22:04.695-04:002013-09-11T21:22:04.695-04:00I laughed out loud when you realistically pointed ...I laughed out loud when you realistically pointed out some of the threats to our constant positivity, especially when it came to what the dog was doing on the carpet. I think that there are sometimes rough spots in real life, and sometimes our lives are a lot more "real" than the positivity experts report theirs to be. Maybe it is time that someone calls BS on some of the give-a-show positivity. Or is that too negative to write? susie @ persimmon moon cottagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01653330247272673990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-26107355874578789972013-09-11T19:50:53.803-04:002013-09-11T19:50:53.803-04:00Totally agree! I also refuse to 'post this if ...Totally agree! I also refuse to 'post this if you really care" on facebook. My facebook page is my page and I'll put what I want on it. I care a hell of a lot for veterans, abused children and animals, the environment etc...and I don't have to post shit on fb to prove that I care!Joanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13970614808838215400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-26027843278204479662013-09-11T15:19:30.610-04:002013-09-11T15:19:30.610-04:00In a cyber world that is filled with simply "...In a cyber world that is filled with simply "liking" things....I yearn for a "shit no" button as well. Does that count as preaching positivity.....gawd I hope so. Oma's not happy today.OmaLindasOldeBaggsandStuftShirtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09589622524456973822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-89722784713192854772013-09-11T13:52:16.153-04:002013-09-11T13:52:16.153-04:00Right on!! :) oops I mean :(.
Thank you for w...Right on!! :) oops I mean :(. <br /><br />Thank you for writing this. <br /><br />I can completely relate to what you wrote, and I had to leave FB for the same reason and more - because I knew that most of it was complete BS. I knew/know these people and most of what they wrote about their life was a fantasy. Now, what you just did - described your "less than perfect" life and then told us why you thought it was perfect is what I believe we all should strive for. Sometimes we just have to accept what we have and look at any positive side of it we can. And if reading other people's fantasy tales about their ideal life makes us feel inadequate then we should stop reading it, or get off social media, because we should be spending our time doing much more meaningful, enjoyable stuff anyway. Aine O'Brienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18372090267226506263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5198853951847315100.post-36303309117749344612013-09-11T13:50:23.472-04:002013-09-11T13:50:23.472-04:00After I read this sample quote, I was overcome wit...After I read this sample quote, I was overcome with laughter and nearly choked. "Look at how awesome my life is! I work 1 hour a day in my pajamas, I live in a foreign paradise and my hair always looks amazing! Let me tell you how to lead the perfect life."<br /><br />Then I realized that my hair looks like crap after I finished dusting. I'm taking a shower, then a nap and then I'll be back to read... <br /><br />Stay positive *wicked grin* Magaly Guerrerohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18295455026184103230noreply@blogger.com